• 9 Tricks to get back your sex life

    Starting up this blog, I want to share some ideas on how you can get your partner fired up again if your sex life has stalled. Here are nine very specific ideas about what you can do

  • The sexual desire - and the lack thereof

    The sexual desire is there for life. From the time we are born - and perhaps sooner than that - and till we shut down. It is conscious and visible, and it is unconscious. It's in day dreams and in night as well At this point, all people are alike, even though we are different in many other respects.

  • Premature ejaculation: The Start-stop Technique

    Premature ejaculation is a common and embarrassing problem. We look at the causes and the treatment for this condition.

Wednesday, February 12

The Many Benefits of Massage Therapy

Massage can help you to relax and unwind, this is common knowledge but there are many other benefits to the process.  First it is important to understand what massage actually is in order to explain why it is so beneficial.  This is the general term for manipulation of the skin, muscle groups, tendons and ligaments in the body.  The act of massage is typically offered through hand to body contact but can also be completed with other body parts and aids.  The following are just three of the many benefits of massage therapy.

Relieves Some Mental Issues

Not all massage is for sore muscles.  A massage can be helpful for mental issues such as stress release or anxiety.  The act of massage can help the body to relax which also relaxes the mind in turn.  Many migraine sufferers use massage as an alternative to heavy medication when they feel one coming on.  While it is not only practical to go to the spa every time you’re feeling stressed, anxious or a migraine coming on, you can buy a handheld Hitachi massager so you are prepared at home when the need arises.   You never want to be without a quick and easy massage therapy session, even if nobody else is at home and you need some stress relief.


There are many people who suffer from insomnia to the point where they only get an hour or two of sleep each night.  With the relaxation of massage, these people can shut their mind and body down so that they can actually fall asleep without the use of medication.  Even over-the-counter sleep aids can leave a person feeling “hung over” or with lasting effects.  Not everyone wants to deal with that so they turn to massage as an alternative to medications.  Massage leaves no after affects that are felt in the morning, or all day for some, so is completely holistic and natural.  When you add in a warm bath before the massage, you have a recipe for complete relaxation.

Sport’s Injuries

Sport’s injuries commonly benefit from massage therapy as the increase in blood flow that massage produces aids in the healing.  Not only does it speed up the healing process, but it can reduce pain after stretches of physical therapy that can be very demanding.   A massage can help ease the pain of the injury too and just adds overall relaxation of the joints, muscle and tissue involved in the injury.  It is also important to massage other areas of the body as they tend to take on extra stress making up for the injured area.  When a leg is injured, the other has to take the weight of the body or when an arm is injured it is not used which means all the stressed is placed on the healthy arm and so on. 
If you are considering starting a massage routine, please contact your health care professional first in order to determine if it is appropriate for you and which type of massage would offer the most benefits.

Author Bio:  For many years, Renee Sanchez has worked with individuals to promote a healthier lifestyle through massage therapy.  

Tuesday, December 31

Straight Men’s Lingerie Fetishes

Many men have fetishes that include wearing women’s lingerie.  While many people may think that the only men who wear women’s lingerie are gay men this is simply not true.  Many straight men love the feel of the silk on their skin just as much as women do.  Others need to feel this material in order to get a sexual release.  Finally there are those who simply want to see their women wear the lingerie so they can have it as a souvenir afterwards.  Below is a greater description of the types of straight men and their lingerie fetishes.

Wearing Women’s Lingerie

Many men like the way lingerie feels and looks on their skin and they want to experience what women do when they wear it.  It makes the men feel a little bit sexier in the same way that women feel and there is really nothing wrong with it.  This type of underwear is made to be thin, to breathe and to feel great next to the skin.  There are very few types of men’s underwear that offer this type of material that feels as good against the skin.  This type of man many also enjoy wearing women’s panties rather than men’s because of how it makes them feel.

Sexual Gratification Only When Wearing Lingerie

There are those men who can only feel sexual gratification when they are wearing women’s under garments and they have a hard time becoming satisfied without them.  These straight men feel the need to have this material next to their skin in some way while they are having sexual relations.  It is important for them to find a woman who is not intimated by this fetish and luckily there are many women who find this very sexy.  They do not mind their men wearing lingerie and even go so far as to purchase it for them so the man in question does not feel embarrassed by making the purchase.

Men Who Want Their Women in Lingerie

Finally there are those men who simply want to see their women wearing sexy lingerie whenever they are being intimate together.  Some may only want their women to wear sexy panties that they can take with them as a souvenir.  A used panty fetish is very common and the men who have this fetish use the panties as a way of reliving the sexual encounter later down the road.  Some men are embarrassed by this fetish so they may actual steal the panties or lingerie rather than simply asking for it.  Many women would not have a problem wearing the panties or lingerie that the men buy for them so they don’t have to buy them when they are stolen. 
It is very common for straight men to have a fetish for women’s lingerie and they may enjoy wearing or seeing their female partners wearing these sexy pieces of clothing.  Lingerie is made to feel good against the skin and offers men a chance to know what it is like to feel like a woman once in a while.

Author Bio – Damian Hector is a blogger who specializes in fetishes.

Tuesday, March 26

Premature ejaculation - Start-stop Technique

What is premature ejaculation ?

When a man is stimulated sexually - indirectly or directly - he will usually erection. Continued stimulation of the penis - for example, by masturbation or intercourse leads after short or long time to release.

Some men get very fast release. This can cause problems in the sexual relationship if the partner needs more time to come up with and even ejaculate.

Since his release at the same time leads to erection wholly or partially disappear for a time, and the desire might also can cause problems in the sexual relationship nuisance to both parties.

It happens almost any man in between. But if the problem of premature ejaculation continues for a long time and almost every time, and if it affects sex life in general, you should look to do something about it - like with his partner.

It is a good idea to talk to your doctor about it or may be referred to a marital therapist. The common problem, because it is a common problem that must be addressed together, and it is not something that man can handle alone.

How to treat premature ejaculation?

Treatment - if you can call it that - usually consists of several parts. We will later be doing an  article on sensory training. Until this article is done,  it might be an idea to try to remedy the problem of premature ejaculation at a so-called stop-start technique.

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How does the stop-start technique work? ?

  • Remember that in the case of an exercise and not part of a sexual intercourse. No kissing or tampering or otherwise in advance. Even afterwards.
  • You are naked and relaxed on his back. Your partner sitting or lying next to you. Or sit between your legs apart. Also nude. You are passive, while she is active.
  • She caresses you - touch you with his hand - so you get an erection. You concentrate solely on her caresses and the sensations and the sexual tension that can arise. She does it gently and lovingly or harder if you prefer. But it is she who set the pace.
  • When you feel the sexual tension increases, and your ejaculation approaching, you say stop, so you do not get trigger.
  • She keeps up immediately to touch you - let go - and the sexual tension subsides. Raising reduced maybe you calm down and you can feel that you do not get the trigger right away.
  • Then she begins again to touch you, then you again get an erection and increasing voltage and is about to come to you again say stop. In this way, stops and starts in three times. But the fourth time in this context charm. She continues to release you.
  • So it is what is called "stop and start" technique.
How often should you repeat the exercise?
Repeat the exercise as often as you like and opportunity. But remember, you are always passive, and she alone is active. And to think that there is an exercise that is not part of a sexual intercourse. It is not "allowed" to add or continue to caress her, even if both you and she would want it. If she needs to go further to even have an orgasm, she must do it alone, without your assistance or presence. You have the need to concentrate on your own problem without having to provide anything to her.

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When you are ready for intercourse?

  • As you learn to control your ejaculation better, so it takes longer and longer until you say stop. So it is time to step caressing.
  • She can use a water-soluble cream, hand lotion or oil, for example, almond, as she lubricates at hand before she starts touching you, she can also use saliva or mucus from the vagina. In this way, slipping his hand easier when she is not on your limb, and you get the feeling that resembles a little about when you're inside her during intercourse.
  • After some experiments with stop-start in this way, you can also do it. And there is still a long time from the time she begins to touch you to feel the impending release turns out, you begin to control it. It gives you confidence.
  • And then the time may come when you try an actual intercourse. You still lie on your back, and she sits over you gently and quietly.
  • Maybe your excitement in the situation so much that you immediately are recovering. So you say stop and then she immediately get off again - for a short while. So over again until you can control yourself.
  • Once you feel that you re-mastered your craving for release, she moves gently up and down, just for you again say stop.
  • I will start when you are ready again and continues three times. Only the fourth time continue on to you ejaculates. But remember that such intercourse and intercourse alone is on your terms and for your sake. She is your active partner who only get the joy of helping you. Only when everything is in place and you get a better handle on the trigger, you can amuse yourselves as it suits you.
  • If you agree, and if your partner feel to it, it's a good idea to her before or after a technical stop-start intercourse with ejaculation - for a while - stimulated by you, or themselves, to release . But remember that during the intercourse, it is only your feelings and your release, it is all about.
This stop-start technique must be considered as part of a treatment by a marital therapist. M can test yourself, but the best results when you do if you also have a professional adviser who you can talk to about everything that might also be used in your sex life.

Sex throughout life

When does sexuality start?

Sexuality occurs when you are born. You feel heat, proximity, body contact and touch. Mon sucking its mother's breast and are provided with both thirst and hunger. Sexuality is not just something with genitalia, but part of the whole that surrounds a person and as a human being.

As anyone who has been nursing infant boys know they get many times during the day all by itself uprising, which decreases by itself. Perhaps it is also true that baby girls can develop similar reaction with a certain tension and swelling around and clitoris.

During the first year of life develop both little girls and boys special moves with their pelvis with muscle tension followed by relaxed calm. This can be done several times a day and may be particularly pronounced in healthy and safe children, which may also be the most interested in direct masturbation.

When does masturbation start in a persons life?
From six to seven years of age begins boys regularly masturbate, and when puberty approaches, more than half tried it - either by their own impulse or through play with peers.

The girls start somewhat later, although some little girls have quite interested in their genitals. Whether you want to call it masturbation is another matter. Otherwise, they often begin around puberty. Curiosity perhaps more than actually craving get girls to try.

While 80 percent of the boys reported having masturbated frequently when they are 16 years of age, has only half as many girls similar experiences. Only after 20 years of age when girls up on the 80 percent.

Men and women masturbate often in life - some more than others. Even at 70 years of age masturbate more than 25 percent of both men and women.

When do people normally start having sexual intercourse?

Most have had sexual intercourse before the age of 25 years. Only a few percent have not tried it or had similar sexual activity.

The time of the first sexual intercourse has moved somewhat downward over the past decades. In 16 years of age, about every third boy and girl had sexual intercourse. Girls start a little earlier than boys. The next two years are just as many. And the rest seeing the first intercourse during the next three - four years.

There are many who boast of their sex life. And there are even more who believe in the stories. This means that young people may feel helplessly lost because they believe that their peers all have a wild and violent sex life with lots of different partners.

There are also a few who have. But the truth is that most life has few partners - perhaps five - some less and some more.

The very young have intercourse 2 to 3 times a week.

After age 50 decreases the frequency perhaps once a week or less.

When are you too old for sex?

Many have very ripe old age continues to be a satisfactory sex life. And if you feel like there is nothing wrong to continue even beyond the 70 and 80 years. There is no limit if the desire is maintained by both parties.

The sexual desire - or the lack thereof

When does sexual desire begin?
The sexual desire is there for life. From the time we are born - and perhaps sooner than that - and till we shut down. It is conscious and visible, and it is unconscious. It's in day dreams and in night as well  At this point, all people are alike, even though we are different in many other respects.

The sexual desire is a clock-operation and clock power, which is necessary to sustain life. Operation must be made just as thirst and hunger and the fresh air to the lungs. The sexual desire and activity is thus a natural part of life and individual lives.

Although sexuality is placed in every human being, shine it does not always matter through. We are designed differently, and our appetite for life, self-expression and sex also differs from person to person. It has nothing to do with the individual's personality. And it can be characterized by different upbringing or events in life.

Even the smallest children have a sexual urge, as they come in meeting and satisfying differently, unconscious way. They are curious and looking at pee pee men and women together. Through childhood growing craving and desire still and proves by deliberately sexual expression or play with masturbation. The sprouting already in the first years of school, where boys and girls are becoming more aware of their gender differences and behave more and more like their idols: the adults. Girls decorate themselves, jewelery itself, painter himself. Boys are also vain - but in a man shape.

During puberty changes sexuality in nature and will focus more on direct sexual expression, sexual activity, stimulation and release. That's fine and natural. But the desire for sexual expression developed not just early and quickly at all. There are both girls and boys who are sexually active already in early puberty, while others will mature to the point many years later.

The time of the first sexual intercourse is despite the increasing boldness and openness between the sexes not changed much, girls are physically a little earlier developed than boys, but not for the reason automatically more need for sexual contact than their peers boy buddies. Yet come the girls usually a little earlier in the process of sexual life than boys - driven by wild infatuations - and their first boyfriend is often no older than themselves.

Why the lack of desire?

Even if it's just a natural part of your life, then you and everyone else - both young and old - allowed to be really happy and satisfied with your sex life. I enjoy it and will not do without it.

But there may be days or periods in life when your sex drive decreases or disappears. It can also be quite natural. Even if the desire is perhaps greatest in the early years and slowly declines throughout life, there is actually no running at full steam for the last day. Other swings a little more. Are you a little down, it's just a matter of time. So you want to climb up again. The desire will always drive you and can come at any time and of itself. Or because you are aroused by something you hear, smell, read or see - for example, pictures and movies. Heating, loving situations can also develop into sex.

Most are able to dampen sexual desire, if it is a little inconvenient, and you do not have one to share it with. But if it rumbles on, so is sex on their own a healthy and natural way, then you fall a little back down to earth.

And there are no rules for how often you should have sex. There is no real difference between men and women in this regard. There are those who need the trigger several times each day - for others it may take weeks in between. But in a relationship is a balance of course good for both parties.

Sex is in the brain and the heart, although it is the abdomen, which gives the sensation. Sex has something to do with hormones to make, but it is rare for lack of libido solely due to lack of hormones. So neither syringes, tablets or suppositories help here, unless you are absolutely at the bottom. In return, sex surplus of energy and mood. And your sex life also requires that you love, love, or at least love and respect, you go to bed with. If the heart and brain are not included, it becomes easy a cold and dreary place.

Lack of sex drive can be quite natural, but it is sad for those who experience it - and still want to. "It tells me nothing", you might say - and then: "There must be done". "Yes" is the answer!

Is there a difference between men and women?

When it comes to sex, men and women are probably not so different design, but the desire is often differently expressed. Let us take an example: The man can get tired and småsur home from work, blunt the front of the TV for the last news has stunned him half and then live tremendously up in 10 minutes when he is in bed with the wife, get it over with and sleep safe and dreams solved afterwards. The woman on the other hand may have in the same situation it difficult to establish themselves in the role of super lover from time. 23.13 to 23.31 and then end. The desire for sex, she requires a little more of the partner than whiz-bang sex. She discouraging both here and now and in general.

In this situation it is apparently only one who does not want, and then it is also she who must be something wrong with that. She is cold or frigid, he says. But it is of course nonsense. And they know it probably is good both deep inside. If your sex life is about to stall, it is something both parties are responsible.

How to get the urge again?

Desire and ability to sex are two different things, although of course they also belong together. If we initially seem desire rest, and it alone is about ability, you have the opportunity to check yourself in the area.

"Ability" means that you are physically and mechanically to function sexually. Although the desire belongs, so you may well outside the control your ability to have sex on their own.

If you are a woman in doubt, try it out. Maybe it's something you have to pull yourself together - but try anyway. By masturbation in one way or another you will experience delightful sexual tension and sensations in the abdomen, feel that sex at the clitoris swells and you will damp the vagina and crotch. If you then know you orgasm. If you are on the way find that you can get at least self-confidence when it comes to sex. So there is nothing wrong with you.

For a man is the same: to note that you can still get an erection, tension and release as before. If you are on the way've found that you physically still works - at least on their own, so it is time to address the perhaps bigger problem: to find out where "desire" has been hiding.

However, if you experience problems with the physical part of your sex life, consider a check with the doctor, so you can get to know if there is an explanation for it.

But let's assume that you operate normally with sex, if it suits you, but then the desire is lacking. Yes, then used force to pull it up from the depths, if it suits you, and you feel you need it.

Mechanical sex without a heart and feelings is a matter for themselves. Let it now be. What you're missing is the desire for sex in general and especially compared to the one you love. There is therefore a matter between two people who are related to each other in all sorts of relationships in life, but sex life is not working - or is stalled. And what do you do?

First and foremost, it is a good idea that I have talked to each other about it in the open tranquility - and maybe find out what it takes to correct the problem. The story of bad habits in daily life is an example that reflects the fact that at least one party has forgotten that a cohabitation also with sex requires mutual awareness and respect. And maybe it's just little things that need to before you both might get fancy and pleasure from sex, so cohabitation is up and running.

You must both recognize that each of you has your share of responsibility for the sex life has stalled. I have both - each - say to yourself: What's wrong with me? And what is it that I'm tired of him / her? In other words: Try to get to the core, give concessions and try to understand. Also be prepared to sacrifice anything to get your sex life to work again.

It is not you alone - or the other - there is something wrong with that. If love and the desire to live together still there, follow the rest of if I together do something about it. But if love is dead, so is the desire it enough too.

And it is a completely different story.

9 Tricks to get back your sex life

Starting up this blog, I want to share some  ideas on how you can  get your partner fired up again if your sex life has stalled. Here are nine very specific ideas about what you can do:

1) Be sensitive and aware of your partner. If you say directly: "Should we spice up our sex life?" It can easily be perceived as criticism.

2) Touch each other. People who have been in a long relationships touches often at each other when they have sex. By introducing the frequent contact again in the form of kisses, hugs and moderate-in-hand will both be more attentive and turned on each other.

3) Think sexy. Send sexy and romantic text messages to each other during the day.

4) Go out and buy sex toys and erotic films, magazines, books and games together. Challenge each other and explore each other's fantasies.

5) Create a good atmosphere. Stress and laundry, kills the romance.

6) Dress up for each other. Surprise the other instead of pulling in jogging pants or faded t-shirt.

7) The bedroom is not the only place to have sex! What about the kitchen, bathroom, hallway or living room. Again, use your imagination - it surprising place, time setup can often seem like a fine spice.

8) Be realistic. Do not expect to go from the classic missionary position once a month for a sexy triangle several times a week.

9) Be careful. Arrange small hints or signals between you who can complete the activities you are doing, if it does not work so well.